Sara Zarr Was Here

Author. Person. Restless Christian humanist skeptic. Recovering codependent perfectionist. Manufactured in a plant that processes peanuts. Also making a long-running appearance at sarazarr.com.
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smoochlock:

'… Sherlock. What are those?'

'They're budgies, John. A kind of bird.'

'Yes, I know what they are! I meant, why are they in our flat?'

'…'

'Sherlock?'

'Because I like them.'

'… Well, they're making a tremendous amount of noise and I'm trying to sleep.'

'Of course, John.'

My entry for the latest mini-Let’s Draw Sherlock - 221b gets a pet. I thought cats and dogs and the like were a bit obvious and my friend suggested budgies. So I decided, “what the hell” and rolled with it. (Actually, I think Sherlock might not like them because of the noise, but they might have other practical abilities.)

Sometimes I search budgies. Sometimes I search Sherlock.

It was only a matter of time.

bunnyfood:

Bird Hat

Why isn’t my husband home right now so I can make him look at this.

bunnyfood:

Bird Hat

Why isn’t my husband home right now so I can make him look at this.

animalstalkinginallcaps:

SEVEN YOUNG LADIES STAND BEFORE ME … BUT I ONLY HAVE SIX PHOTOS IN MY HANDS.
AND THESE PHOTOS … REPRESENT THE GIRLS … WHO ARE STILL IN THE RUNNING TOWARD BECOMING … AMERICA’S NEXT TOP MODEL.
I’M KIDDING, OBVIOUSLY. NONE OF YOU ARE TALL ENOUGH FOR RUNWAY WORK, PLUS I DON’T HAVE HANDS. NOW GET OUT OF HERE AND GO PLAY IN THE YARD. I NEED TO TAKE A LITTLE NAP.

animalstalkinginallcaps:

SEVEN YOUNG LADIES STAND BEFORE ME … BUT I ONLY HAVE SIX PHOTOS IN MY HANDS.

AND THESE PHOTOS … REPRESENT THE GIRLS … WHO ARE STILL IN THE RUNNING TOWARD BECOMING … AMERICA’S NEXT TOP MODEL.

I’M KIDDING, OBVIOUSLY. NONE OF YOU ARE TALL ENOUGH FOR RUNWAY WORK, PLUS I DON’T HAVE HANDS. NOW GET OUT OF HERE AND GO PLAY IN THE YARD. I NEED TO TAKE A LITTLE NAP.

(via dreamingofseattle)

myonecomplaint:

sarazarr:

mikejung:

catagator:

Didn’t even get to close the search string before I was told I was wrong. 

This is appalling. What the hell, Google?

It’s not google. It’s that the term “unlikable female characters” is so much more commonly used in conversations and critiques of story than the male counterpart term that google algorithms assumed you typed wrong. So the correct questions is, “What the hell, world?”

IOW: User error.

In defense of the world, it does seem that the links point mainly to articles that defend and promote “unlikeable” female characters.

The primary concern I have is that I suspect to find the articles about unlikeable male characters one must simply search for “unlikeable characters,” since of course in our culture “male” is the assumed default. That’s the shitty part, if you ask me.

mikejung:

catagator:

Didn’t even get to close the search string before I was told I was wrong. 

This is appalling. What the hell, Google?

It’s not google. It’s that the term “unlikable female characters” is so much more commonly used in conversations and critiques of story than the male counterpart term that google algorithms assumed you typed wrong. So the correct questions is, “What the hell, world?”

IOW: User error.

"I’m a birthday loan officer. I know what tapas are."

What a vicious circle: girls lose confidence, so they quit competing, thereby depriving themselves of one of the best ways to regain it. They leave school crammed full of interesting historical facts and elegant Spanish subjunctives, proud of their ability to study hard and get the best grades, and determined to please. But somewhere between the classroom and the cubicle, the rules change, and they don’t realize it. They slam into a work world that doesn’t reward them for perfect spelling and exquisite manners. The requirements for adult success are different, and their confidence takes a beating.

This article is my life. 

The Confidence Gap,” Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Atlantic

(via wilfordlauren)

The older I get the more I find there is very little reward in the work world in being a “good girl” in the sense of not asserting your rights, not claiming your place, not stating when you know you are right for fear you might actually be wrong and then any fallout will be on you and you’ll prove to everyone what you’ve always suspected about yourself because you are a girl or someone will say you are fat or ugly which is related to nothing, always being cooperative, trying to be a team player and not the squeaky wheel, sitting nicely with your hands folded before recess like you did in third grade, etc.

I see over and over men in my profession ascend in part because they assume they deserve it and don’t worry about “how it will look” to claim a spot and not attempt to please every single person in their professional world. Sometimes when I’m doing career planning, I tell myself to “think like a man.” It’s so complicated. Gah.

catagator:

Didn’t even get to close the search string before I was told I was wrong. 

... and the post you reblogged, someone wiped out the disclaimer and original source. if you go to his tumblr, there's a lot of explanation things there.
sarazarr sarazarr Said:

so interesting, thanks!

(re the cat & boyfriend reblog)